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Shoot them a text before/after you masturbate. This message is best reserved for someone you’ve been regularly intimate with. It definitely falls under the “Intermediate” and “Advanced” levels, as you’re about to see, but it’s a massive turn on and builds a deeper sense of sexual openness. This initial chat is also a great opportunity to talk about your turn-ons, turn-offs and boundaries around dirty talk. Sussing out the other person’s parameters going in will ease your mind by knowing in advance what’s okay and what’s not. Some people adore their dirty talk to be filled with swear words, others hate it.

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I hadn’t seen Joe in three years; the last time I did, he was still a virgin. He talks about dating apps, the effect of Tik Tok, cancel culture and what makes good soup. Raph has the most beautiful soul and continues to explore his relationship with men. Raphael hasn’t had sex yet and discusses when the special moment will cum, hook-up culture and the misconception of the LGBTQIA+ community. Model, Del Winder, dresses to impress at all occasions even when asked to hop into my bed. We talk the walk, delve into the assumptions of the industry with eating disorders and judging your own weight due to performance, not only as a model but a boxer.

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The mere thought of it sent my mind into a frenzy the whole day before he arrived in the evening. As forced as it sounds when you read it, many of us love hearing dirty talk in the bedroom. We lose ourselves in the heat of passion and take on a persona that turns us on in the most naughty, unconventional ways. What is it about erotic communication that increases our sexual arousal?

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By calling up these memories, you’re expressing appreciation and desire for regular sex with your partner, and that’s hot. Describe your mood, your current environment, the feel of your new underwear or sex toy, a sexual fantasy, or your favorite sexual activity. This lets your partner into your world no matter how far away they are. I had a really dirty mouth, so I could dirty talk like no other. There are so many advantages to talking dirty in a long-distance relationship, and it’s not just the obvious. “Daring to be vulnerable with each other, like you do when writing provocative things, can foster closeness, simply because vulnerability feeds connection,”  says Thomas.

I want to handcuff you to my bed and then ride you reverse cowgirl, so you can look, but can’t touch. I want to take you on a midnight drive and then fuck you senseless on the hood of the car. I want to shove you onto the bed, crawl in between your legs, and suck your cock until I feel your cum cover my tongue.

• Have a nagging (or totally inconsequential) question about sex?
• Perhaps you’re new to talking dirty, still working up the confidence to speak that way with your partner, or not 100% sure what to do — it can definitely feel somewhat daunting.
• I have also used audio erotica with a partner before; we listened to it together on the train home.
• Start by expressing your desires or compliments during intimate moments in more straightforward, less intimidating ways.

A long-distance relationship can mean lots of lonely nights with no company, so we put together 24 ways to initiate dirty talk for a long-distance relationship to build excitement when you’re not together. For dirty talk to be successful, it has to be tit for tat. Both people should do it so there’s no sort of animosity or resentment or power struggle. Dirty talk isn’t for perverts, it’s about enhancing your sexual experience and vocalizing your sexual wants. More men want women to do it, according to Cadell, and that’s why women do it, to please their men.

It’s also important to practice consent and be aware of any power dynamics or potential for coercion. In summary, dirty talk can have both positive and negative psychological effects, depending on the individual and the context in which it takes place. Jennifer Litner, PhD, a certified sex therapist, describes sounds as one of the key senses that can heighten arousal, especially for women. She theorizes that the preference for audio erotica over video could be due to the fact that much of mainstream porn is male-centric and can be off-putting because of the ways women’s bodies are objectified in them. Plus, those clips don’t leave much (if anything) to the imagination.